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Lower confidence in teenage girls Carrie Hill - 10:16am Jul 2, 1997 PST (#16 of 23)
I think that girls are encouraged a lot more then they used to be. I'm only fourteen, so I'm extremly grateful that I will have the opportunities that have been available to woman only recently. While I feel that the vast majority of my teachers weren't at all sexist, there was a major exception this year. My English teacher. Through out the entire year, she seemed to cling on to damaging stereotypes. For example, we had to write poems. She gave the girls pink sheets of paper, and the boys yellow sheets of paper. As if all girls love pink! (I did mine on green, by the way). Another day, she was talking about examples of irony. Her example: War is Kind. That was fine, but then she said, "Now, you boys who are history buffs, is that true?" That especially bothered me because I'm excellent in history. At least she retired this year. I think that it is as much students as it is adults. I raised my hand frequently in the different classes, and by many was perseved as quite nerdy and odd. That didn't stop me. I think that another feeling that my peers have is that at this age, it's vital to have a boyfriend. I have no problem with people my age dating per say; but it seems like many girls shut their friends out of their lives. I think people need to send a stronger message that friendships are far more long lasting and important then boyfriends. Especially when some girls see dating as a way to become popular. I have a very close friend who feels that way. It isn't just that she dates, it's that she will go out with almost anyone, and do pretty much anything with them. I think she should have more respect for herself, and save some of that for when she's older. I think part of the problem is that she views herself as unattractive, and I think these boys may raise her self-esteem, if only briefly. When she was younger, she was somewhat heavy. Not fat, but not fitting in with the popular ideal, either. She's lost some of that weight, and she isn't unattractive at all, but she still seems to cling on the that childhood image of herself as one of the heavier girls. Until she sheds that, she's going to have some problems. Boxing Bites Thomas LaHaie - 05:30am Jun 30, 1997 PST (#9 of 48)
Let's not be too hard on Iron Mike. He's really just a big soft cuddly guy. Ladies don't understand him...ask his ex-wife and the lady from Indianapolis. Mike said he was nice to RG and considerate of the lady in Indianapolis and did some accomodating things so she wouldn't have a lot of worries. We just have to work harder at understanding Mike. He's achieved a kind of religious inner peace and has mostly got in touch with his feelings. O.K. so he did have a little slip of anger and forgot that this was the "sport" of boxing and thought it was a bar fight or a Tough MAN! contest. He was just a little confused since that other big guy hit him in the head with his head. How is Mike going to explain that to his kids!?! The other guy had some little gold teeth marks on his ears and that's all. Mike had a BIG cut on his eye-lid. I saw it LIVE right here in Thailand and didn't have to pay to view this big fight. I read that the Nev. Comm. on Boxing is changing some rules and Mike might have to wear a muzzle in the 100 million rematch and the Commies did this because they were worried a low blow might end to be a low bite and chomping off the other guy's manhood would really be bad for the "sport" of boxing. No big deal. Give him his thirty mill. and schedule a 100 mill rematch with Mike the Muzzle vs. Vango Holyfield. It surprised me that there wasn't a whole bunch of ecumenical prayers after the bite/fight. NO Praise Be "-----" or Thank You, Jesus. Sure were a lot of folks talking about the situation today but most seemed to be overreacting to Mike's over-enthusiastic actions. By the way I don't know the rules that well but I guess it's O.K. to bite a bit of ear off but the rules must say that you can't try to do it to both of your opponents ears because that would be un"sports"MANlike and will get you disqualified until the 100 mill rematch. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome - learning to live with it susan anthony - 04:04pm Jul 1, 1997 PST (#147 of 159)
... My family are not a warm bunch, and they think i'm just 'malingering', and my remaining friends mostly think i've got more energy than I have because i save it up to spend when I'm with them. Which is rare because I am too tired. Their numbers of course have dwindled dramatcially because I simply can't stay in touch. Better with some on the internet now though. This has got to be about the most socially unacceptable and difficult illness in the book. Everyone says " yeah, i get tired too..." but this is Bone weary, utter , constant exhaustion. For a woman like me who used to dance and sing and be full of life, this could hardly be a greater constrast. I had more energy when I was riddled with cancer, and cancer leaves you extrememly tired. It is hard in a way to blame people for not understanding, though, because most CFIDS people look very well, and most of us make a huge (and probably ridiculous) effort to seem cheerful. This comes from simply trying to make the most of the social contact that we can have in the windows of energy we do get. Then we go home and collape, for hours on end, or days. Nobody sees us like that.... |
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