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(06/12/98)
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By Jeff Pulice
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(06/11/98)
Are we the world?
By Andrew O'Hehir
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(06/10/98)
The Internet comes to the Outback
By Simon Winchester
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(06/09/98)
Mondo Weirdo
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(06/08/98)

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ADVENTURES OF MY YOUTH . | . PAGE 1, 2
I turned and could hardly believe what I saw. My kind driver had gone mad! His pants were unzipped and, if I had had any questions about what kind of massage he desired, I had only to look lap-level to find the answer. I kept my eyes up and swore, in English.
I sat frozen, unsure of what to do. What had happened to the middle-aged family man who had asked about my studies and with whom I'd debated the morality of bullfighting? Could I talk sense to this guy?
Smiling, he repeated his question. "Tu fais un petit massage?"
Some relationship I didn't want to know about was happening between his hand and another body part. I swung open the car door and yanked my backpack from the back seat. The last thing I heard was odd, cackling laughter as the door slammed. My luck disappeared into the distance.
In my socks, I walked that road for over an hour before climbing into a semi with two truckers. Early in my travels, I had made a pact with myself not to take rides in vehicles bearing more than one man, though I had broken this rule once before, traveling through Germany, when I had climbed into the back of a windowless van and been horrified to discover an entire bike racing team. The odds were not in my favor. But having just competed, the lads were extremely tired. I slept all the way to Switzerland in a heap of bikes and bodies, and only one guy, and I thought he was cute, seemed to cozy up closer than was called for.
Still, I thought this situation, post-bailout, dire enough to break the rule again. Odds were I'd be fine; I figured I'd already had my bad ride for the day. I figured only half wrong. Sure, the truckers took me all the way to Bilbao, but both managed to cop a feel as I climbed down from the cab.
In Bilbao, I never found my friend, though I made a new one, a British girl, and we ended up spending a good part of that summer waiting tables in the south of France in a beachside cafe. So we had to go topless, sometimes, on hot days. Still, the money was good. ("Who cares?" I wrote in my diary. "Really, everyone goes topless.") We lived in tents perched next to a vineyard, a short bike ride from the cafe. Water was siphoned from a nearby well, and we each claimed a separate row of vines for our personal toilet. Halfway through the summer I ended up at the doctor's with an itchy infection he referred to, frighteningly, as "champignons" -- mushrooms. "More washing," he admonished, but by this time there were almost 20 of us camped in the vineyard and water was scarce.
Still, though I may have been itchy, I was happy. There were seven or eight nationalities represented in our commune; half of us didn't even speak a common language. We ate and drank together and explored the French countryside on rickety motorcycles. I felt flush during this time. I actually had dough in my pocket. Most days I ate at the restaurant, though one of our gang worked at a grocery store and brought to our encampment all sorts of out-of-date food (including some canned fish that, I remember, set everyone bolting into the vineyards for a good week).
Though I don't think I even owned an air mattress until halfway through the summer, when fall arrived and I decided to return to college, I had saved enough money to take the train to London from Marseilles. But I didn't. My British friend talked me into hitching through Holland and we even boarded the Channel ferry in someone's car, saving the cost of the crossing. The name and phone number of the Dutch family that carted us across is scratched into the margin of the diary: "Cool family," I wrote, "and they gave us beer!!!" Life seemed pretty damned simple.
Looking back, the scene on the shoulder of the Spanish highway strikes me as some version of hell. I am approaching my 40th birthday and, like everybody else poised at this trite juncture, I'm dancing with a midlife crisis. At the same time I'm trying not to feel old, I'm trying to recapture the freewheeling spirit of yore.
Fat chance. It's not only that I can't believe I did all these things and emerged basically unscathed (meaning, really, not raped), it's just that, well, I have to admit my desire for roughing it has noticeably waned. The last time I hitched a ride was when I ran out of gas on the freeway and took a ride with a highway patrolman. I considered that an adventure. As for the thrill of bedding down on some secluded hillside -- recently I threw a tantrum because I had to wait half an hour for my reserved hotel room to be readied. And I'm grumpy if I can't book direct flights.
My old diary admonishes me: "Don't ever not do this!" But how can I get that "this," those rough-edged travel experiences and chance meetings and weird encounters that I knew then, and still know, set in deep, and that I remember 20 years later as if they had happened last week? And can I get it without the blisters and weird infections and without getting into cars with strange men and teams of bike racers?
I doubt it.
SALON | June 15, 1998
Louise Rafkin is the author of "Other People's Dirt" (Algonquin Books, 1998). She has written for the New York Times Magazine, Tricycle, Cosmopolitan, OUT, Ladies Home Journal and other publications.
T A B L E+T A L K
Do you feel the same way? As we grow older, is there any way to keep having the kinds of foolish and wonderful adventures -- or at least the spirit of those adventures -- we had in our youth? Share your thoughts in Table Talk.


	T A B L E_T A L K San Francisco: What shouldn't you miss when visiting the City by the Bay? Swap advice and stories in the Wanderlust area of Table Talk R E C E N T L Y Suddenly last summer By Hal LaCroix Babes, buzzwords and biz-bonding at the Nantucket Film Fest (06/12/98) Letter from Jakarta: After the sky falls By Jeff Pulice When expats flee, foreign guys become very attractive -- and other bits of wisdom (06/11/98) Are we the world? By Andrew O'Hehir Despite our uneasy place on Planet Soccer, the United States will be one of 32 nations vying for glory as the globe's most passionately watched sporting event begins (06/10/98) The Internet comes to the Outback By Simon Winchester A 7-year-old boy's life changes forever (06/09/98) Mondo Weirdo Slow boat to Thailand Temptations and tribulations on the Mekong River (06/08/98) Browse the Wanderlust Feature archives		ADVENTURES OF MY YOUTH . \| . PAGE 1, 2 I turned and could hardly believe what I saw. My kind driver had gone mad! His pants were unzipped and, if I had had any questions about what kind of massage he desired, I had only to look lap-level to find the answer. I kept my eyes up and swore, in English. I sat frozen, unsure of what to do. What had happened to the middle-aged family man who had asked about my studies and with whom I'd debated the morality of bullfighting? Could I talk sense to this guy? Smiling, he repeated his question. "Tu fais un petit massage?" Some relationship I didn't want to know about was happening between his hand and another body part. I swung open the car door and yanked my backpack from the back seat. The last thing I heard was odd, cackling laughter as the door slammed. My luck disappeared into the distance. In my socks, I walked that road for over an hour before climbing into a semi with two truckers. Early in my travels, I had made a pact with myself not to take rides in vehicles bearing more than one man, though I had broken this rule once before, traveling through Germany, when I had climbed into the back of a windowless van and been horrified to discover an entire bike racing team. The odds were not in my favor. But having just competed, the lads were extremely tired. I slept all the way to Switzerland in a heap of bikes and bodies, and only one guy, and I thought he was cute, seemed to cozy up closer than was called for. Still, I thought this situation, post-bailout, dire enough to break the rule again. Odds were I'd be fine; I figured I'd already had my bad ride for the day. I figured only half wrong. Sure, the truckers took me all the way to Bilbao, but both managed to cop a feel as I climbed down from the cab. In Bilbao, I never found my friend, though I made a new one, a British girl, and we ended up spending a good part of that summer waiting tables in the south of France in a beachside cafe. So we had to go topless, sometimes, on hot days. Still, the money was good. ("Who cares?" I wrote in my diary. "Really, everyone goes topless.") We lived in tents perched next to a vineyard, a short bike ride from the cafe. Water was siphoned from a nearby well, and we each claimed a separate row of vines for our personal toilet. Halfway through the summer I ended up at the doctor's with an itchy infection he referred to, frighteningly, as "champignons" -- mushrooms. "More washing," he admonished, but by this time there were almost 20 of us camped in the vineyard and water was scarce. Still, though I may have been itchy, I was happy. There were seven or eight nationalities represented in our commune; half of us didn't even speak a common language. We ate and drank together and explored the French countryside on rickety motorcycles. I felt flush during this time. I actually had dough in my pocket. Most days I ate at the restaurant, though one of our gang worked at a grocery store and brought to our encampment all sorts of out-of-date food (including some canned fish that, I remember, set everyone bolting into the vineyards for a good week). Though I don't think I even owned an air mattress until halfway through the summer, when fall arrived and I decided to return to college, I had saved enough money to take the train to London from Marseilles. But I didn't. My British friend talked me into hitching through Holland and we even boarded the Channel ferry in someone's car, saving the cost of the crossing. The name and phone number of the Dutch family that carted us across is scratched into the margin of the diary: "Cool family," I wrote, "and they gave us beer!!!" Life seemed pretty damned simple. Looking back, the scene on the shoulder of the Spanish highway strikes me as some version of hell. I am approaching my 40th birthday and, like everybody else poised at this trite juncture, I'm dancing with a midlife crisis. At the same time I'm trying not to feel old, I'm trying to recapture the freewheeling spirit of yore. Fat chance. It's not only that I can't believe I did all these things and emerged basically unscathed (meaning, really, not raped), it's just that, well, I have to admit my desire for roughing it has noticeably waned. The last time I hitched a ride was when I ran out of gas on the freeway and took a ride with a highway patrolman. I considered that an adventure. As for the thrill of bedding down on some secluded hillside -- recently I threw a tantrum because I had to wait half an hour for my reserved hotel room to be readied. And I'm grumpy if I can't book direct flights. My old diary admonishes me: "Don't ever not do this!" But how can I get that "this," those rough-edged travel experiences and chance meetings and weird encounters that I knew then, and still know, set in deep, and that I remember 20 years later as if they had happened last week? And can I get it without the blisters and weird infections and without getting into cars with strange men and teams of bike racers? I doubt it. SALON \| June 15, 1998 Louise Rafkin is the author of "Other People's Dirt" (Algonquin Books, 1998). She has written for the New York Times Magazine, Tricycle, Cosmopolitan, OUT, Ladies Home Journal and other publications. T A B L E+T A L K Do you feel the same way? As we grow older, is there any way to keep having the kinds of foolish and wonderful adventures -- or at least the spirit of those adventures -- we had in our youth? Share your thoughts in Table Talk.